How can I make this work?

I am a smart girl and I have really tried to make my relationship work. I love my bf with all my heart and I would do anything for him but he is depressed and most of our problems stem from that. For example, when his depression gets worse he becomes very impulsive (a common symptom) and he does things that are totally out of character and feel like I cant trust him anymore.


Is it possible to make a relationship work with someone in a deep depression?


Will he ever get better or is this something that he will always have?


He doesn't have the motivation to get better, so should I give up on him??





The reason this sucks is bc deep down I really love him and I want to make it work. I just don't know if its possible.How can I make this work?
you can always try counseling, but with my experience I'd say it's doomed to fail - HE has to want to change and make it work tooHow can I make this work?
Is he on medication for his depression?


I, myself, take ';PAXIL'; and it works WONDERS for me!


While I realize alot of people do not believe in medication, I personally do. Because, from experience...they work.





I would not give up on him %26amp; the love you have for him. However, if he is NOT on medication for this illness...and will NOT agree to take some, then I might re-think that. Unless of coarse you are willing to go thru the rest of your lives dealing with his...issues. (those things that come from depression)





I attached the web md link, for you to poke around in. It is, if your not familure with it, a WONDERFUL, informative site.





GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH!





PS: I just noticed that you wrote ';He Doesn't Have The Motivation To Get Better';...I think this might be where YOU step in. Help motivate him. By you saying that, my guess is that he is NOT on ANY medication?


If he really loves you...the way you love him...then I would like to think he WILL be willing to go see a Dr for meds. ;)


Push For Love GF! ;)
Are you sure he suffers from only depression and not Bipolar Disorder?


You also don't mention whether he is on any medication-though you did say he wasn't motivated to get better.


I don't know if I would ';give up on him';, but I do believe that you should have a heart to heart and explain your feelings to him. It may very well come down to an either or situation. Tell him that you will stand beside him and help him in any way that you can, but that if he refuses treatment, then you can no longer stand by and accept the situations you are put into.


One thing you can do is to join a support group for family members that have someone who suffers from some sort of mental illness. You will be surprised at all the input and information you can gather. They really help you understand the illness as well as offer advice.


Once trust is broken, it's very hard to get it back. I would suggest that you go to the support group, and after attending, decide exactly what it is you want to do.


Above all, remember that you CAN'T seek treatment if they don't want to.